tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post4971424855331303703..comments2023-06-13T02:29:34.635-07:00Comments on World of Weasels: A Massengill MomentWeaselMommahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-66060317700015032112010-03-05T21:31:07.778-08:002010-03-05T21:31:07.778-08:00First of all you totally traumatized me with that ...First of all you totally traumatized me with that book quote! I then traumatized Cheryl with it because misery loves company and all, her traumatized noise was hysterical!<br /><br />Second I definitely agree that there needs to be a dialog between parents and their children on this subject and that it is the parents' job to help guide their children into making the decisions that are right for them. I also believe that privacy is not a right but a privilege for minors, they do not have the mental and emotional capacity to truly make the best choices for them and their family. Plus if they do get pregnant (or diseased) before they can take care of themself and the offspring the parents have to deal with the consequences right along with them.<br /><br />I think that it is best for all kids to be educated on both abstinence and the various methods of birth control and protection with the pros and cons of each discussed. In my opinion this is best done by the schools in a fact based manner and the parents should be responsible for instilling morals and beliefs in their children. My district taught a balance but the lesson was crystal clear, the only way to ensure you will not get pregnant and/or diseased was to not have sex. And I definitely agree with you on the "plan b" or whatever pills, I believe that preventing an embryo from implanting is abortion/murder.<br /><br />The minor patient confidentiality depends on the state laws for the most part. When I was 16 or so they made me have a pap smear because I had a cyst thing or something on an ovary that caused abdominal pain. I had Mom come with and stand by my head for support. The doc kept asking if I had sex and I kept telling her that I had not and then she made my mother leave the room to ask again with the promise to not tell if I said I had (she got the same answer). Crazy world we live in!The Microblogologisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12259187351177996677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-91204378116930798162010-02-01T20:12:12.380-08:002010-02-01T20:12:12.380-08:00Ahhh, now I understand your question a whole lot b...Ahhh, now I understand your question a whole lot better. Yeah, this probably isn't the book for me. but I plan on having years of conversations, not lessons from a book. Fingers crossed it works -- for all of us!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07803503583347758969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-63044577995532726152010-01-29T15:49:34.266-08:002010-01-29T15:49:34.266-08:00I am visiting from Tom's Being Michael's D...I am visiting from Tom's Being Michael's Daddy and NOT the previous Anonymous. <br /> Excellent post. My Mother had a rather unique way of teaching abstinence...she was a nurse, worked in OB at the local hospital. She had me wait for her outside the delivery room after school so I could catch a ride home with her. Very effective, especially when the new mother was a screamer. This was in the 1950s. Alice KableAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-75125639200787770852010-01-28T16:40:32.082-08:002010-01-28T16:40:32.082-08:00This is what makes you such a great parent. You ar...This is what makes you such a great parent. You are strong in your convictions. Having read your review, I have to say I'd be very uncomfortable having my daughter read it.terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12510457113017189354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-14695379422671907832010-01-28T14:09:09.604-08:002010-01-28T14:09:09.604-08:00Anonymous left another comment and I accidentally ...Anonymous left another comment and I accidentally deleted it. I would like to post it. So when you come back to check responses to it, please leave it again, anonymous.WeaselMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-11119625803111897082010-01-28T04:11:12.602-08:002010-01-28T04:11:12.602-08:00Great review! (I don't have time to read all t...Great review! (I don't have time to read all the comments now, so I hope I'm not repeating someone.)Forget 18 - what about simply until you are committed, mature, and solvent enough to raise a child that could potentially be created by your decision to engage in sex? While I, like you am willing to give all the facts to my children, I am not willing to be their friend. It is not my job! Parents presumably have increased their wisdom since teen-hood, and that is the knowledge to share!seashore subjectshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08249164512343867204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-79878465756646887082010-01-28T03:15:17.710-08:002010-01-28T03:15:17.710-08:00@ NukeDad ~ I agree that in this day and age kids ...@ NukeDad ~ I agree that in this day and age kids are growing up with much more access to all sorts of information and daily stresses. All the more reason we as parents have to make sure that we are a trusted source of info to our kids, a good example, and give the best guidance that we can for their personal well being.WeaselMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-78711939494959171702010-01-27T18:43:22.358-08:002010-01-27T18:43:22.358-08:00See? This is what happens when you choose Massengi...See? This is what happens when you choose Massengill over Summer's Eve. Just sayin'.<br /><br />OK, let's get serious; In a society where kids have instant access to each other through texting, email, Facebook, MySpace, etc.; and that information on ANY subject is just a mouse click away, it's unrealistic to think that they don't already know more than we think they do. It's like the old joke about the Dad having "The Talk" with his son; "Billy, I think it's time we talk about sex." "Sure, Dad; what do you want to know?" <br /><br />Kids today face so many more social issues than we did it's unreal. From kids beating up weaker kids just so they can post it on You Tube to cyber-bullying to sexting; there's a lot of pressure on kids today! The best you can do is impart your wisdom and advice on them and hope that they use it. Let's face it, their moral fiber and character are going to be pretty solidified by the time you have "The Talk." If we have done our jobs raising them while they are young, then the "Talk" will be much easier, more honest and, hopefully, more effective.<br /><br />Now, on to the Troll: ARE YOU SERIOUS? You go on someone's blog to state your case and don't even have the gonads to leave your name? You, are a coward. No, I take that back; you're not a coward, you're worse. You're the gutless instigator that wades into the crowd, gets them all riled and then cowers to the sidelines before you break a nail. Your courage can be measured in a thimble and you're probably cursing me right now from the basement of your Mother's house. You obviously don't have any kids, but when you do, remember this post when you're a grandfather/mother at 34. Pathetic.NukeDadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11991081105454463526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-75147241123885985852010-01-27T18:42:21.529-08:002010-01-27T18:42:21.529-08:00@ Daddy Files ~ I agree that it is cowardly to not...@ Daddy Files ~ I agree that it is cowardly to not leave a name when being inflammatory, but attempt to respond to all comments, in kind. Thanks for the support.<br /><br />@ White Bully ~ Thank you. I hope you found it helpful.WeaselMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-27446475144066276482010-01-27T18:23:25.501-08:002010-01-27T18:23:25.501-08:00For some reason I kept telling myself to stop read...For some reason I kept telling myself to stop reading, but I made it through. <br /><br />I Think your review was great, I'm glad you pointed out, that private information you share with the doctor is not that private when under their Insurance.WhiteBulliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12264957619739669951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-28773216609858543562010-01-27T18:06:29.512-08:002010-01-27T18:06:29.512-08:00@ sexandthesingledad ~ I agree that people should ...@ sexandthesingledad ~ I agree that people should have the courage to identify themselves before getting inflammatory, but crudeness of language is something that I ask you refrain from here. My children DO read my blog.<br /><br />@ VodkaMom ~ I have a funny follow-up, but am resisting the urge to feed the troll.<br /><br />@ JCO ~ Only one commenter forgot civility in the other pants. I am grateful for all the positive reaction to this review, even from the publisher.WeaselMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-27426009557658130212010-01-27T17:54:03.645-08:002010-01-27T17:54:03.645-08:00People who comment without having the intestinal f...People who comment without having the intestinal fortitude to attach their identity to what they say, are not worth responding to WM.<br /><br />It's fine to disagree, but don't be a jackass about it.Daddy Fileshttp://daddyfiles.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-60223176961152706072010-01-27T17:44:09.122-08:002010-01-27T17:44:09.122-08:00@ LisaMM ~ Thank you for the opportunity, for thin...@ LisaMM ~ Thank you for the opportunity, for thinking of me on this blog tour and being so gracious.<br /><br />@ Otter ~ Every parent has to do what they know to be the best for their families. This book isn't for mine.<br /><br />@ Momo ~ Feel free to email this to them. I will only agree to to reviews if they are willing to accept my honest review.<br /><br />@ Tara ~ "One time, at band camp.." is no way to start a conversation with your child.<br /><br />@ Anonymous ~ Please don't ever come to my blog and flame. This is a place of civility and open discussion. Doing it anonymously is cowardly. That said:<br />1. I don't tell you how to raise your children, don't tell me how to raise mine.<br />2. Yup, it's a double standard, just as it should be. I am their parent, they are minor children.<br />3. I talk to my children about religions other than the one that we practice and why they are not what we believe and practice. That's educational, not hypocritical.<br />3. Lulling children into a false sense of privacy and security is dishonest. I can sign and attain a copy of my minor child's medical records, they are allowed to know that.<br />4. Point of advice for the future, don't be the troll.WeaselMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-33028832966335837692010-01-27T17:20:01.255-08:002010-01-27T17:20:01.255-08:00wow. it's hater day in the comment land. i lov...wow. it's hater day in the comment land. i love differing opinions, especially when they belong to two intelligent people. but respect is a must. name calling is a no-no. insecurity breed meanness. and cowardice breeds anonymity.john cave osbornehttp://johncaveosborne.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-49518950365258241112010-01-27T17:07:27.085-08:002010-01-27T17:07:27.085-08:00okay, Anonymous? Obviously does NOT HAVE kids....okay, Anonymous? Obviously does NOT HAVE kids. <br /><br />And from the sounds of it, never will.Vodka Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04734323418017847775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-81520452851455053192010-01-27T17:03:17.245-08:002010-01-27T17:03:17.245-08:00Why are some people such douche's that they wo...Why are some people such douche's that they won't even identify themselves? Geez. (coughing) what a loser! (coughing)sexandthesingledadhttp://www.sexandthesingledad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-45754893107681605622010-01-27T16:09:15.182-08:002010-01-27T16:09:15.182-08:00How did that whole abstinence thing work out for S...How did that whole abstinence thing work out for Sarah Palin? Not so much. <br />Or is it do as I say, not as I do? <br />Wait, it does seem to be that in your case. You're not willing to admit to your own children when you first had sex. "It's none of their business" - so why is when they choose to have sex your business? Talk about double standard. <br /><br />And you're willing to cover the various birth control options but instill that you don't feel any of them should be used? Please. Hypocrit!<br /><br />The approach you're taking is just going to ensure you're terrifying your kids - especially if you have girls - into not being honest with their health practitioner because heaven forbid it would get back to you. (And no, just because they're underage, you're NOT entitled to their medical details - there's that whole patient privacy thing that is appropriate for each and every communicating human.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-60987298215088946922010-01-27T14:31:04.364-08:002010-01-27T14:31:04.364-08:00Having older kids, one already in her 20s and anot...Having older kids, one already in her 20s and another almost 17, I will say that as they grew up I did tell them that my belief was that the best plan was abstinence, but also provided information about other birth control options. I made my feelings very well known on that subject. At this point in their lives, I know that, especially with my daughter living most of the year away from home, I don't have as much control over their lives as I once did. I can only hope they each make wise choices.<br /><br />That being said, the quote you cited is disturbing on many levels. The author's conspiratorial tone, 'it's us against your dumb parents,' is not helpful. The suggestion that a parent share intimate details about their sex life is an unrealistic suggestion.<br /><br />This has been an interesting discussion. Some of the other comments are intriguing.Tara R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02993625193184914299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-27435726906663731792010-01-27T14:09:36.442-08:002010-01-27T14:09:36.442-08:00I have to say, that I laughed out loud when I read...I have to say, that I laughed out loud when I read "not so fresh feeling" and "cheesy" in the same paragraph.<br /><br />I am SO STINKING proud of you for telling it like it is. I wish the FTC would read this so they would know that not every review is full of crap. Some of us are confident enough to tell the truth.Momo Falihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09735425888226178189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-26171203958978402332010-01-27T11:35:56.866-08:002010-01-27T11:35:56.866-08:00Parents sharing sex tales is definitely enough to ...Parents sharing sex tales is definitely enough to make everyone sick. That is not the type relationship parents are intended to have with their children anyway. I am glad I have a long time to formulate a plan of action on this topic. Great job with the review. I love your honesty.Otter Thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10218675244540656914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-5928002404883597832010-01-27T11:09:44.043-08:002010-01-27T11:09:44.043-08:00Cathy ~ If I don't believe my child is capable...Cathy ~ If I don't believe my child is capable of the best, how can my child believe it.<br /><br />@ Joanie ~ Definitely not a book I would my 15 year old to.<br /><br />@ Tom ~ Thank you for the standing ovation. Maybe NukeDad will bring the flowers? Or Melisa will make a paper bouquet and a sash?<br /><br />@ Antique Mommy ~ Thank you.<br /><br />@ J.R. ~ If your Mom has you using Kotex, RUN, don't walk, to the bookstore.<br /><br />@ Mr.Man ~ Well said.WeaselMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-85788210016119293112010-01-27T10:45:28.326-08:002010-01-27T10:45:28.326-08:00Weaselmomma, Just a quick note to say thank you f...Weaselmomma, Just a quick note to say thank you for a very honest, fair, and balanced review. I'm sorry you had some issues with the book, but what a terrific conversation it started here in the comments! Thanks so much for all the time and effort that went into reading and reviewing The Body Scoop for Girls. We really appreciate it.LisaMMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10530087423961700607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-9757314048253447452010-01-27T10:09:10.870-08:002010-01-27T10:09:10.870-08:00Great post! I am standing with MichaelsDaddy and a...Great post! I am standing with MichaelsDaddy and applauding too. I have witnessed a parent telling her daughter too much information and the risky behavior that ensues.michaelsmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15624295026218089344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-62833053416333978792010-01-27T09:46:06.127-08:002010-01-27T09:46:06.127-08:00This book obviously comes from a person who has a ...This book obviously comes from a person who has a different set of values than I do. That's' okay. She has a right to write the book (which she has obviously done.<br /><br />With that being said, the fact that teens are more "worldly" than previous generations does not mean that they are mentally and emotionally ready for sex simply because they are physically ready. Many of us, as adults, have regrets for actions taken as a teen without the benefit of wisdom and maturity that we have now.<br /><br />As a parent, I will talk openly about sex from the biblical perspective that God provides. Our children need to understand that sex is not the same as love. There are a lot of things that feel good that are not good for us. Experience and wisdom gives us the discernment not to do everything that feels good to us because it might be harmful to us (i.e. your illicit drug example).<br /><br />I don't claim to have all of the answers to this topic. However, what is the point of having a belief system if you are going to try to find loopholes in that system? All I can do is speak to what I have taught my family to believe.Mr. Manhttp://www.dearmisterman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6115679628400900738.post-59208590440100609192010-01-27T09:34:39.645-08:002010-01-27T09:34:39.645-08:00as the father of a 12-year-old girl I think I need...as the father of a 12-year-old girl I think I need to hit my local Barnes and Noble ASAP. Hopefully The Bookstore Chick isn't in there. <br /><br />Thanks for making me laugh. This was better for me than talking to my mom about Kotex.J.R. Reedhttp://www.sexandthesingledad.comnoreply@blogger.com